why I became a sex and relationship coach
I chose to pursue coaching after two years of couples’ therapy that was amazing in every aspect except sexuality. At the time I was also working toward a Master’s in Counseling Psychology. The Somatica method and training offered what was missing in both and I took a leap that would transform my personal and professional life.
“The Somatica Method is a holistic, loving and systematic approach to sex and relationship coaching that invites people to move beyond shame, clarify their needs and boundaries, live emotionally connected and erotically embodied lives, and experience the joy and satisfaction of great sex and authentic relationships. The skills required for success in sex and relationships are learnable and the Somatica training offers a comprehensive and systematic approach to learning these skills. The Somatica Method is pleasure-based, interactive and experiential and based on up-to-date neuroscience research about how people learn, connect and experience personal growth.” – Somatica Institute
My personal story is not uncommon. After many years of long term partnership and motherhood, I realized I had lost touch with myself as a sexual person. Because of the shame and stigma that surround pleasure and sexuality, and the deficit of real understanding about how sex and intimacy work in relationship, my partner and I ended up where many, if not most, couples do: we lacked the knowledge and skills required to sustain desire and arousal in our long term relationship. In addition to this, it was difficult to avoid the impact of subtle and not so subtle messages that tell us that motherhood and sexuality are not compatible.
In the process of studying and practicing Somatica, I reconnected with my desire, my sexuality, and my confidence. I have a deeper understanding of my own needs and boundaries, an increased capacity for stronger connection and intimacy. All of this has come from prioritizing the durable joy of pleasure and following where that leads me in my life and relationships.
Having experienced the transformation that is possible, I knew this work was mine to do. Somatica Coaching offers a different opportunity for growth than traditional therapy. With the focus on experiential learning, sexuality and eroticism, and authentic relating, change can happen more quickly and more effectively. It is my sincere pleasure to have received and now offer the support, skills, and connection that bring joy and choice into every aspect of life, and in particular the vital experiences of sex and intimacy.
As your practitioner, I bring compassion, presence, and authenticity. I am committed to being mindful, honoring your boundaries and readiness, and respecting your privacy and confidentiality.
I am excited by the potential for how much we can learn together, how fully we can love ourselves and one another, and the possibilities this offers for our transformation as individuals, in relationships, and for society as a whole.