Elena Letourneau

Relationship & Sexuality Expert | Educator | Coach

Who I Am

From age 18, I knew I wanted to be a therapist. I also knew I didn't know much and that I'd need to live some life in order to have anything substantive to offer others. So I did.

I understand the territory I teach, not just in theory but from lived experience across diverse contexts.

I believe that the skills we need for meaningful connection—emotional awareness, erotic empowerment, healthy boundaries, skillful communication—are learnable. But most of us never receive explicit education in these areas. We struggle through, often feeling like we’re the only one that missed the manual.

There is no one way, and no universal right way, to engage in sex and relating. My goal is to help people develop the skills, practices, and mindset necessary to cultivate agency, enjoyment, and exceptionally satisfying relationships.

Background & Qualifications

Education & Training:

  • Graduate study in Counseling Psychology—intensive training in human development, therapeutic practice, and how to hold space for transformation

  • Graduate study in Language Literacy and Socio-Cultural Studies—foundational understanding of how people learn, make meaning, and navigate cultural context

  • Certified Sexologist through advanced training in experiential methodologies

  • 11 years of practice supporting individuals and couples through relationship challenges, transitions, and growth

Since founding The Pleasure Ethic in 2014, I've supported clients through the full arc of intimate life—dating, partnerships of all kinds, marriage, and starting families; in crisis and in resolution; in creating strong foundations, tailored relationship structures, and empowered erotic connections.

My Approach

  • Therapeutic depth combined with coaching clarity. I create space to explore inherited patterns that block access to pleasure and connection, while offering frameworks, tools, and direction for shifting those patterns.

  • Focus on possibility over pathology. While understanding dysfunction and its roots matters, insight alone doesn't create change. My work emphasizes what's possible—developing the skills and capacity to navigate complex relational terrain with more ease and agency.

Philosophy & Values

My work is grounded in principles of dignity, pleasure, accountability, and agency—and what I call intimate justice. These aren't abstract ideals; they're practical guides for how we relate to ourselves and each other.

I believe that the work we do in our intimate relationships ripples outward. How we navigate power, honor boundaries, communicate through conflict, and stay connected across difference are skills that matter far beyond individual relationships. The revolution is relational.