What does a typical session look like?

Initial sessions are similar to talk therapy. They are an opportunity for me to get to know you and understand your goals for coaching, and for you to get know me. Ongoing sessions may be agenda focused or more free-form, present moment focused, and responsive to current needs and events. Sessions may include emotionally focused work, embodied mindfulness practices, experiential practices focused on a variety of possible areas including reframing mistaken beliefs, communication, touch, flirtation, seduction,

Who do you work with?

I work with folks who are ready to shift the way they relate to themselves and in their significant dyads. My practice is representative of and welcomes folks who identify across the spectrum of gender and sexual orientation, come from diverse ethnic and cultural backgrounds, are in traditional relationships (monogamous) and non-traditional relationships (consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, bdsm and kink), and anyone employed in the sex industry.

I am passionate about supporting people in creating relationships that provide both secure attachment and individual self-expression. This applies to all kinds of relationships, including the one we have with ourselves. While the majority of couples I work with are in romantic partnerships, I also teach and facilitate relational skill building for family dynamics, business partnerships, and parenting support.

I do not work with folks looking for a quick fix for functional issues or anyone unwilling or unable to take accountability for their part in challenging relational dynamics.

How much does it cost?

See services pages: Individual Coaching, Relationship Coaching, Packages & Intensives, Professional Mentoring

Do you offer a sliding scale?

Yes. I simply ask that those with the financial resources to do so pay at the higher end so that I may offer lower rates to those with less financial resources and/or security.

What is your cancellation policy?

I am committed to being flexible whenever I can and happy to reschedule within a week if possible. General expectations and considerations are:

• Cancellations within 24-72 hours incur a charge equal to half the session fee.

• Cancellations less than 24 hours (and no-shows) incur a charge equal to the full session fee.

What if I don’t want to talk about sex?

That’s fine! Many of my clients start out with sex as a concern or focus but not all do. Whether or not sex is the topic in any given session or at all, work grounded in subjects that are typically misunderstood, stigmatized, shrouded in shame and silence (sex, death and grief, money, addiction, etc.) acknowledges the whole person - how we are shaped by our history, identity, and context. Self-awareness, self-acceptance, communication, boundaries, access to what brings us pleasure and durable joy are important for every aspect of our lives and relationships.

How did you get into this work?

It all started with a great couples’ therapist from whom I learned what a good therapeutic relationship feels like. I also learned about attachment theory, how my past impacted my present, how to communicate in ways that made me and my partner feel heard, seen, and validated - all of which brought us closer. It was a profound experience in every area except sex.

After two years I was ready for something else and knew that talk therapy alone wasn’t enough to shift what was stuck in my relationship to my body and sexuality. I found my way to the modality that would prove to be both personally and professionally transformational.

I established my practice in 2014 and it has been the most fulfilling work I could ever imagine doing. I have the privilege of working with amazing clients many of whom have been long term, some short term, and some come and go. The coaching space is one in which real relationship is the foundation for supporting and facilitating growth. Frequency, duration, and style are determined by the needs of all involved and the process is flexible and responsive.