Emotion is typically framed—implicitly or explicitly—as inferior to rationality, categorized into good/bad, strong/weak, appropriate/inappropriate. People mistrust emotion, especially intense emotion, because they lack understanding not because emotion is inherently problematic. Ironically, as people seek more connection in our crisis of loneliness, the very feelings that ignite bonding are pathologized unless "appropriate" and in the right context. Lust and limerence are characterized as disorders, intense emotion is treated as something to avoid or transcend. Without literacy, what is intrinsic to our nature becomes suspect, rather than a reservoir of intelligence and pleasure.

Eroticism isn't only about sex, and sex isn't always erotic—but each can inform the other, expanding the landscape of pleasure. Understanding how we're uniquely shaped by formative and peak experiences with sexuality helps us navigate our own patterns and those of our partners. Erotic literacy moves beyond tips, tricks, and external measures of what constitutes "good sex" to engage with sexuality as a creative, playful endeavor. This approach minimizes the anxiety, shame, and resentment that result from performative and obligatory approaches, creating space for authentic desire and connection.

Beyond simply setting limits, or learning how to say no, relational boundaries are best understood as the infrastructure of intimacy. They are a nuanced interplay of needs and limits, desire and capacity. Along with emotional and erotic literacies, resilient boundaries are dynamic practices of mutual care and respect. They create the conditions necessary for collaborative negotiation and thriving intimacy.

Emotionally focused communication practice for navigating conflict and repair after rupture. Instead of temporarily alleviating symptoms, this framework builds capacity. Conflict becomes generative rather than meaninglessly destructive, increasing mutual understanding and empathy even when agreement isn't possible.