It's challenging to say no. It's near impossible to ask for what we want, or need. It's disorienting and uncomfortable to hear no when overriding boundaries is modeled as love.
Most of us cycle between two modes. In mode one, we bypass our limits and deny our own needs (as proof of love). In mode two, when that bypass inevitably becomes intolerable, we erect rigid boundaries as a form of self-protection. This cycle is fueled by the mistaken belief that in order to be connected to you, I have to disconnect from myself. In order to be connected to myself, I have to disconnect from you.
This session reframes boundaries as the infrastructure of intimacy, as much about needs and desire as they are about limits. The practice becomes about allowing ourselves and others to be whole, and collaborating from that place of wholeness.
This session is part of The Pleasure Ethic Conversations, a four-part cohort series on Relational Literacy.
Spring 2026 Cohort:
Saturdays 10:00 AM – 2:00 PM
March 28 · April 11 · April 25 · May 9
In-person in Oakland. Max 10 participants.
Sliding scale pricing for the full series: $300 / $475 / $625
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