Private Coaching

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
—Carl Rogers

Individual & Couples Coaching

Whether working individually or as a couple, my approach centers on exploring what really makes each of us tick—where we align with others, where we don't, and how to be with the best and worst of ourselves and our relationships.

Most people come seeking support for specific challenges:

  • Navigating desire, sexual shame, impacts of trauma on intimacy

  • Stuck communication patterns or relational dynamics

  • Kink exploration, consensual non-monogamy, alternative relationship structures

  • Life transitions affecting sense of self and relationships

And stay for sustained developmental work as they and their relationships continue to evolve.

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My approach is best suited for people who want depth over quick fixes, appreciate intellectual rigor alongside emotional exploration, and welcome being challenged. Previous therapy experience is helpful but not required.

Private practice availability is limited.

How I Work

Much of who we are is shaped by our early and formative experiences. We develop strategies to get our needs for connection and survival met, often internalizing beliefs about ourselves, the world, and other people that no longer serve. These relational strategies and implicit beliefs become automatic and unconscious. What were once brilliant adaptations for survival can block access to joy and connection in our current lives.

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Making the Unconscious Conscious: Shifting patterns that no longer serve starts with compassionate attention to automatic behaviors. With awareness and new relational experiences, we can navigate life with less reactivity and more choice.

Skills-Based Approach: I offer expert guidance in developing relational capacity and skill while honoring the healing process that makes lasting change possible.

Fully Present: I show up authentically as a whole person, sharing genuine responses and lived experience in support of your journey.

Focus Areas

Relationships & Communication

  • Communication challenges and repair after rupture

  • Desire discrepancies and sexual intimacy

  • Boundary work and relational structures

  • Creating strong foundations in new partnerships

  • Rediscovering connection in long-term relationships

Sexuality & Embodiment

  • Sex and sexuality education

  • Embodiment and erotic awareness

  • How to talk about sex: practically and seductively

  • Fantasy, desire, and sexual boundaries

  • Shifting from pathology to possibility

  • Impacts of trauma on relationships and intimacy

Personal Growth

  • Cultivating a compassionate inner witness

  • Shifting unhelpful patterns and strategies

  • Navigating and processing difficult emotions and experiences

  • Discovering sources of authentic joy and pleasure

  • Getting really good at being who you are

Specialized Contexts

  • Consensual non-monogamy, open relationships, kink exploration

  • LGBTQ+ relationships and identity

  • Cross-cultural relationships

  • Addiction and disordered behaviors

  • Postpartum intimacy and sexuality

  • Parenting and family dynamics

  • Loss, grief, and major life transitions

  • Purpose and meaning in work and creative life

Information & Investment

Format: Sessions offered in-person in Oakland, California & online
Frequency: Recommended every other week for optimal progress
Session Length: Typically 60-75 minutes, tailored to best serve your needs

Individual Coaching

  • Standard Rate: $275 per session

  • Sliding Scale: $175-$250 per session

Couples Coaching

  • Standard Rate: $325 per session

  • Sliding Scale: $225-$300 per session

Relational Literacy Intensive

  • Individual Intensive: $1350

  • Couples Intensive: $1650

An immersive introduction to working together: four 90-minute private sessions covering Emotional Literacy, Erotic Literacy, Relational Boundaries, and The Rules of Engagement. This intensive offers exclusive one-on-one (or couples) attention focused on your specific patterns and relationships, and provides a foundation for determining if ongoing private coaching is the right fit.

To get started, schedule a consultation call to discuss your goals and explore options for working together.

Schedule a Consultation Call